I’m not one to post my personal business to social media. Nor am I one to usually talk about big issue topics so this may surprise some people.
Dealing with divorce, exes and misbehaving children.
I’m sure everyone knows that things can be extremely difficult when dealing with your ex, especially when it comes to the kids. But what happens when your ex completely tries to sabotage you constantly and tries their best to make everyday life miserable? I’m here to tell you. Nothing. You do absolutely nothing. There’s nothing you can do. If they are not breaking the law, there’s not a thing anyone can do about it.
Recently, I’ve had a lot of behavior issues with my oldest child. Yes. My sweet green eyed, blonde haired swimmer girl is the reason I lose my Jesus sometimes. I see so much of me in her which makes it even more difficult. The good thing is that I can truly relate to the anger and frustration. I was such an angry child. After everything that happened to me and having to be raised by my grandparents I was so mad. I struggled with anxiety and depression and now looking back I can honestly say that I had ADD and I now struggle with all of these things as an adult.
So, my oldest daughter and I got into an argument before sending her to school. Long story short is that she slapped me in the face and then I spanked her…… and then spanked her again. There was a lot of yelling and without me knowing she called or text her dad and told him how I had “hit” her and she even told him that I kicked her. Fast forward a few hours later at work and I’ve got DHR calling me telling me that cops are at her school and they need to talk to me. Instead of calling me to see if she was just being an overly dramatic 10 year old, he actually called the police.
Talk about embarrassment. Let’s be honest, you never want your home problems to surface. We want everything to look perfect from the outside. We post only the best pictures to social media and always tell about the amazing things we are doing and fun times we have with our children. We rarely talk about our daily struggles or issues that we have. So when it’s stripped naked, painted in neon colors and paraded down main street for all to see it can be devastating to say the least.
Of course after getting statements from everyone the very sweet DHR lady said there’s obviously no abuse and said she would like to see her get some counseling which, oh, by the way, we already had an appointment made. The problem is definitely being addressed and I think we are on the right track.
The problem is that I’m having a very hard time now dealing with the stigma that surrounds having sent my child to school upset, after a fight, and then having the cops show up. The day of the “incident” I was talked down to, sighed at over the phone and after recommending my daughter be checked out of school was made to feel like a bad parent for doing so.
I’ve gone back and forth from confronting those who I felt don’t really know the situation and just simply letting it go. I mean even if I do say “their dad takes every opportunity to make my life difficult and I did not abuse my child”, they’re going to form their own opinion either way.
Ironically my bible verse of the day was 1 Peter 5:6 Humble yourselves therefore under the mighty hand of God, that he may exalt you in due time. I was curious about the story surrounding this verse so I read the whole chapter. Peter is talking to Christians about how to remain humble and how others like them are going through struggles just the same. He says that if you remain faithful and suffer for a while he will support and even strengthen you. Peter wrote this letter as hope and encouragement.
I’m not sure that this verse gives me the answer as to whether I should confront or ignore but it does give me comfort in that as long as I continue to follow him, I will be rewarded in the end. Verse 7 says “give all your worries and cares to God, for he cares about you. When you feel like the entire world is against you it is wonderful to know that the one who matters is for you.
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